To truly understand someone

Immerse yourself in their world. Spend quality time and observe patterns that reveal what they are seeking at that moment—safety and stability (security, certainty, order), comfort and relief (ease, peace), respect and dignity (fairness, justice), love and belonging, identity and recognition, freedom and control (autonomy, agency), power and impact, competence and mastery, growth and progress, novelty and stimulation, truth and clarity, hope and resilience, purpose and meaning, harmony and alignment, healing through forgiveness or redemption, and eventually legacy and continuity.